Dressing for Your Future Self

Dressing for Your Future Self

Dressing for me, is not a task, it’s a way of life. I’ve learned to dress as I would like to see my future self (and presently see myself), how I want to be seen and where I plan to be. To break it down further, if it’s not a representation of who I am, where I’m going or want to be, then you won’t see me wearing it. Style evokes a certain feeling in your mind and feeling is a power that determines your approach to life (and quite frank, how others approach and view you). (Plain and simple) Dressing for your future self brings life to who you are becoming.  

What you think, you BECOME – Buddha

Wardrobe Style

Shirt by Zara – not available (see these)

Distressed denim by VIP Jeans (see here and here)

Open Toe Heels by Forever 21

Layer Necklaces by Happiness Boutique (browse others here*Sponsored

Since going through my divorce, I’ve had an “out with the old and in with the new” attitude. If it wasn’t going to represent my future, then it didn’t belong. Not only did the furniture I shared with my ex-spouse have to go, but even some of my old clothes. I didn’t care to wear most of them anymore because it was a reminder of who and where I was in my past. The feeling I had didn’t put me in a good space and I had to do something about it.

It was then that I realized how important it was that my style needed to be a reflection of how I seen my future self. That meant the attachment I had for my old clothes had to go. Whatever old clothes I did keep was transformed by pairing them with new wardrobe to make them feel like new. It worked because it made me feel empowered on my new journey. How you see my style today is directly attached to my personal growth. As I continue to grow, my style will evolve and align with my future self as I create it that way. 

I’ve also learned that seeing is believing. If you don’t look like what and who you say you are, you won’t be believable. What you say you do or want to do professionally needs to match. Whenever I tell someone that I’m a fashion stylist and blogger I’m believable (why?), because before I walk out the door I make sure that I look like what I say I am. I’m a walking brand wherever I go. And the way I dress is a representation of my brand.

I constantly experiment with the way I dress to create a stand out look because in the future I don’t want people to ask what I do, I want them to already know. With that said, I want interested parties to request my services because of how they see me. They’ll see first hand what I can do. 

Dressing for our future self is a great way for us to be on the verge of becoming who we want. Do you ever think about dressing for your future self? Try this. Write down what you want personally and professionally in your future. Then start dressing for the future you want to have and not only will others believe you, but you’ll believe you too. 

If you love my layered geometric necklace, use code stylemefancy at the checkout and receive a 10% discount for orders over 19 euros. The discount code is valid from Seprember 21st until October 21st.

Photography by: Vinn Brooks



Pentené Milner is a mother, influencer, stylist and all around lifer. She started Style Me Fancy by Pentené (a style, fashion and lifestyle blog) initially to brand herself as a stylist, but quickly turned it into a place to inspire women to find a sense of empowerment in their personal style. She’s a native of San Diego, California, but made Los Angeles her home in 2002. She enjoys being mom to her tween son, city life, fun with family (and friends that are like family), seeing the world, dressing up, dining, wineries and self caring at a spa. To her, as a former singer, music brings everything to light and many times writes while listening to it.


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