Embracing Your Positive Character Traits to Build Confidence

Embracing Your Positive Character Traits to Build Confidence

Our character defines who we are and reveals itself through our reaction to any given situation. It can reveal the best and worst parts of you. The tests in life are apart of our journey that makes apparent which areas need our attention and work on healing for our personal growth. Some battles can be overwhelming and really beat us up if we don’t take self control and accountability. Trust me, I know. It’s key that once we’re aware of it, to then correct it.

Our self-esteem suffers for what we allow to affect us negatively. And once our self-esteem suffers, so does our confidence. If our confidence suffers, then many other aspects of our life will too, including our positive character traits. When something bad happens it’s best that we embrace our positive character traits to build confidence. Accessing those positive character traits is our power to being exactly who we are and becoming who we are meant to be. 

Weakness of attitude become weakness of character.

Albert Einstein

I’m sharing examples of the positive character traits I’m learning to embrace about myself. It’s what has helped me understand myself better and made me feel good about who I am. Just because some take advantage of your positive character traits doesn’t mean that there aren’t others worthy of them. Or worse, try and tell you what you aren’t just because they lack what they know you are. Also, I learned that bad situations should never change who you are, but make you better. 

Learn a bit more about me through the positive character traits that define who I am and build confidence in me. 


the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness.

A person’s core values and morals to me shows up in their actions. They stick to them whether or not a person is watching. You know the saying, “when people show you who they are, believe them”, I think this ties right in to a person’s integrity. I’ve always been a person of integrity and think about how my actions can affect others, including myself. I’m learning this the older I get. If it doesn’t feel good in my spirit than I won’t do it or I recognize that it’s not for me. 


the quality of being honest.

For me it never feels right to be dishonest and I believe the best policy is your honesty. Especially with yourself. Growing up my mom used to always say, “what’s in the dark will come to light”, and that still sticks with me until this very day. And if I’m being transparent, some times what comes to light may not necessarily be such a bad thing. What starts in the dark could be just what we need to see in the light to make the necessary changes to do better. I have struggled more with being honest with myself than with others in the past. I’ve built an honesty policy within myself now and it’s something that I’m teaching my son. Honesty is where accountability lives and accountability is where your growth is. 


persistence in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.

One thing I find that’s truly a blessing to have is perseverance. I didn’t have a silver spoon upbringing so all I knew and learned from my mother was how to persevere through the storms. I especially learned while going through my divorce how much having this trait is a strength. I have been able to achieve so much although there has been so many battles I had to fight to get to where I am. I just do my best to not allow petty things to get to me. I’m probably most grateful for being someone of perseverance. Nothing can stop me but me and I won’t allow anyone any control over my destiny ever again. 


a strong feeling of support or allegiance.

I love hard and because of this I have had my heart broken so many times. It will not stop me from being loyal to those that are worthy of my loyalty. I’ve learned that everyone has different ways of defining what loyalty is to them. I’m guessing based on what benefits them which can be selfish. Faithfulness and devotion I believe creates the type of love you deserve from the right people. What you give to others, you’ll get it right back. Even if it’s not from the person you’ve been given it to (ya heard).  


feeling or showing deference and respect.

Being kind, courteous, dignified are just some of the qualities I possess. And because of those qualities, I show signs of respectfulness. I was always a well liked kid by my friends parents because I always showed respect. I think as long as you are showing others no respect you show the lack of respect you have for yourself. Even how you present yourself can be done respectfully. I’m not going to lie. I have had to work on showing those respect when they don’t give it to me. I’ve learned that their disrespect has everything to do with them and less to do with me. 


concern for the sufferings or the misfortunes of others

One of the traits that I realized my son took after me was my compassion for others. And I too get this trait from my mom. I’ve always been concerned for the well being of others. That’s why giving back is so important to me. I’m always thinking of how to make a difference in the life of someone else. Even if it’s telling them how great they are or how well I think they are doing. I’m working on making sure that I don’t overdo it like I have in the past. Like looking out for others that aren’t looking out for themselves. 

Confident style moment and inspiration 

The featured outfit is an easy going and feminine street style. It is the epitome of confidence and a woman sure of herself. I love wearing jeans, but I’m all for wearing tops with jeans that shows a feminine side. This off the shoulder with low sleeves that hit right at the elbow with ruffles is so feminine and fun. The earrings are a perfect match because they are a statement and needs no help of a necklace. My top was actually a birthday gift from my girl Trish Lindostyle and the earrings are from my girl Julie of Stylish Paradox. They know me well, through style and all, lol. 

My positive character traits and style complements each other well. I couldn’t be one without the other. The look exudes my personality and helps my style become what it is. Reasons like this are why your character builds confidence and style. 

Mules by Forever 21 (similar)

Bracelet by Kollectin 

Your character is so much more important than your looks.

-Scott Sanford

I’m learning that a person is defined by their reaction to any given situation (shout out to a quote given by the late Great Ermias “Nipsey Hussle” Asghedom). Not that any of us are one hundred all the time, but embracing our positive character traits will help lift you and inspire you. What do you believe your positive character traits are? How or when did you discover them? Do you believe that embracing them can build up your confidence? How about help with and complement your style? 

Thanks for stopping by and reading this blog post. I hope that it gave you some perspective and inspiration. Don’t forget to share with others, leave a comment and subscribe for more inspiration.

Be true to yourself. 





Pentené Milner is a mother, influencer, stylist and all around lifer. She started Style Me Fancy by Pentené (a style, fashion and lifestyle blog) initially to brand herself as a stylist, but quickly turned it into a place to inspire women to find a sense of empowerment in their personal style. She’s a native of San Diego, California, but made Los Angeles her home in 2002. She enjoys being mom to her tween son, city life, fun with family (and friends that are like family), seeing the world, dressing up, dining, wineries and self caring at a spa. To her, as a former singer, music brings everything to light and many times writes while listening to it.


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