This Valentine’s you don’t have a significant other, big deal. Don’t exclude yourself from the context of Valentine’s day just because you don’t have that special someone to spend it with or to expect something from. I’ve figured out how to embrace Valentine’s after appreciating where I am in the process as an almost divorced woman. And with that being said, don’t mind celebrating it with my girls or alone. I’m just glad that I learned that we can make the holiday into whatever we want it to be about. I’m also glad that as part of that, we are including into the conversation how to spend the day loving on ourselves or making plans with our squad too. In case you needed some ideas, I have quite a few or more on how to celebrate Valentine’s as a single lady.
And if ya’ll don’t mind, I have three beautiful guests (my sister queens) from Melanin Movement LA that will also share some of their fabulous tips and insight. Melanin Movement LA was created to build a foundation for women of color to encourage community over competition. We are a group of bloggers and women in business that discover ways to give back to the community in style. So I’m excited that you’ll get to meet them and get their perspective on the topic as well.
There are so many ways you can celebrate Valentine’s as a single lady. I’ll be doing at least one of these to indulge in some self loving care:
- Netflix and Chill (alone): Don’t lift a finger. So that means no cooking means leaving no dishes behind. Order from your favorite restaurant and drink a glass of wine while watching a favorite movie or tv series on Netflix.
- In home spa night: I did this last Valentine’s and it was the best decision ever. It was so zen and nurturing. You can do this by trying a new facial mask (or the one you love, whichever you prefer) and chill in a bubble bath (or bath bombs) with candles while listening to relaxing music.
- Reflect and release: May be a great time to create a list of boundaries and what you want from your next relationship.
- Your children can be your Valentine(s): Perfect mommy and me time for you and your babies. Make it a fun night of pizza and games. Doesn’t ever hurt to include them into your Valentine’s day plans.
Now passing it over to my girl Julie, who even as a married woman has worthy tips on how you can celebrate Valentine’s as a single woman.
Julie Harbour ( Follow here Stylish Paradox)
I’m a married woman, who is a romantic and just loves, love! Although Valentine’s Day is generally looked at as a day for lovers in the physical sense, because I am a woman who believes in nurturing friendships and empowering others, Galentine’s Day is right up my alley! I also look at February 14th as a
day to celebrate loving yourself! #selflove
Here are my tips to enjoy your February 14th, whether single or not:
1) Go to the spa and get your favorite treatment. Splurge on something that you’ve really wanted, like an amazing handbag or pair of shoes.
2) Send Galentine’s notes to women who have made a positive impact on your life, like a mentor or someone else who inspires you.
3) Take the day off with your favorite girlfriends, and volunteer at your favorite non-profit that assists women.
4) Take a solo trip to your favorite romantic destination! Or go with your girls if they are available!
5) Throw a Pink and Red Themed Party for you and your girls! Incorporate a “secret valentine” gift exchange. Dress in red/pink and eat red/pink.
6) Put on your favorite red ensemble and tell people you are your own valentine!
7) Write a note in your journal listing 50 things you love most about yourself.
And, don’t forget to love on yourself…EVERYDAY!
I don’t know about ya’ll, but I absolutely love her advice. I wanted to pick a couple of favorites, but I can’t because they are all amazing ideas.
Next, Marshel (also married) reminds us to not make as much of a big deal about the holiday because it’s just really another day. Even with a significant other she’s not stressing about the what to do’s. I’ll let her tell you the rest.
Marshel Ng (Between You-N-Me)
There was a time when I was OBSESSED with Valentine’s Day. If my man didn’t come “correct” and shower me with gifts, a fight was meant to be had. I’ve learned that Valentine’s Day is meant to be a celebration of love. Your unique love with your partner, yourself or your friends. It’s not a one size fits all emotion, so why celebrate it as such?
If you hate fighting traffic, stay home. It’s still winter outside girl. Dress warm if you must go out. You can be cute with a jacket on! No need to put yourself in debt for a “grand gesture”. A gesture of love can be made anytime of any day, don’t let anyone tell you the 14th is the only day it counts.
So my final guest, Karissa will share a story about how she once looked at Valentine’s as a single woman and how she has learned to embrace it (and why). I think we’ll all learn something from what she has to say.
Karissa Allen (This Is Kris Joy)
I’m going to keep it real with y’all. The last time I went on a Valentines Day date, “Hitch” was playing in the movie theaters – I’ll let you guys do the math on that! As someone who’s perpetually single, Valentine’s Day has never been a holiday I particularly enjoy. The month of February gives me anxiety and I breathe a sigh of relief on February 15th – I survived another one! All jokes aside, Valentine’s Day can be hard for some of us, but the older I get, the more thankful I become for ALL of the love in my life, in every form.
I’m thankful for the unconditional love of my family and the special bond I have with each of my friends. I’m even grateful for the romantic love people around me experience, because those relationships make me excited and hopeful for my turn:) So I guess the point of this is that it’s easy for us single girls to be Bitter Betty’s around this time of year, but it’s so much better to just take in all the love around you. Valentine’s Day will always be a thing (we can thank our capitalist society for that) so throw on some pink, put a smile on your face, and feel the love:)
Feeling clutch about being single around Valentine’s after this post. This post was created to let you know that there’s nothing wrong with being by yourself on V day while you’re working on self. And nothing wrong with turning it into Galentine’s day. Thanks to my girls for coming through and blessing us with some of their wisdom (and on point advice). What was your favorite tip(s) or insight? And which one of these are you going to try and live by?
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As always, be good to yourself.
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