How To Own Your Look

How To Own Your Look

When it comes to owning your look you have to take some things into consideration. For starters, if it doesn’t give you joy, don’t wear it. Not everyday is our best day, so sometimes we gotta use what we got to help us feel our best. And your look can be your greatest asset in this regard. When you’re looking good, you subconsciously feel just as good. Your wardrobe should definitely consist of mood uplifting colors, prints, fabrics and styles. There’s really no other way to put it than to tell you that owning your look will make you feel on top of the world.

People will stare, make it worth their while.  

– Harry Winston           


Wardrobe Styled By Me

Basket Tote (similar) // Shoe by Steve Madden (similar) // Blazer Jumpsuit by Papaya Clothing (similar) // Sunglasses by Sunglasses.LA // Jewelry by Kollectin 

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Let me let you in on a little something I do to begin the process of owning each of my looks. When I shop for clothing I’m always considering what each item will say about me and if it connects with my personality. It almost always has to fit with what I’m trying to convey about who I am. My style represents the evolution of where I am presently so it really matters what I wear on a daily.

Once I believe it matches both me and my personality, I make sure that it matches my body type and body shape. There’s nothing worse than wearing something that is unflattering and you picked it up because you thought it was cute. And let’s face the music, it’s important to wear styles for the age you want to project. We never want to get so caught up in some of those latest trends that you forget that you’re more than likely past that stage in your life. Unless you know how to make it age appropriate for you, leave the past in the past. 

Next up, the colors should complement your skin, eyes and hair. Some of the colors that I look the best in and stand out are red, burgundy, orange, yellow, purple and green. Knowing this, these colors immediately catch my attention when I’m looking to build new wardrobe pieces. Wearing the right colors is a for sure way of having a harmonious look and owning it. Nothing sweeter than putting a sparkle in your day and the onlookers too.


I say, dress to please yourself. Listen to your inner muse and take a chance. Wear something that says, ‘Here I am!’ today. 

-Iris Apfel

I’ve gotten some of the important style 101 basics out of the way when it comes to the beginning steps of owning your look. Now let’s talk about putting the remaining pieces together with the use of accessories. Accessorizing will help elevate your look with your personal touch. Anybody can buy the same clothing as you, but personalizing it using accessories will put the finishing touches on how you’ll completely own your look. 

Here are some accessories that help with owning my look:


I’m obsessed with hats and have been for about three years now. Hats have a special way of taking your look from blah to tada. I have effortlessly owned many of my looks by throwing on a hat. Onlookers can’t help but notice your look in its entirety when you wear a hat. 

Statement Jewelry 

Probably one of the first ways I learned to make a look my own is by wearing statement jewelry. It has the ability to make a look shine. And the beauty of jewelry is that it can help you create different looks each time you wear the same outfit. I love to do this with a fun statement necklace, earrings, bracelets and rings. You don’t have to wear them all at the same time either. The idea is to switch it up based on what you’re feeling at the time. 


I always heard that the shoe makes the outfit. I wholeheartedly believe this. So yes, the shoe always matters. What’s fun about using shoes to own your look is there are so many optional ways you can style in them to complete your outfit of the day. The design, color and style of the shoe will help you be creative. You can literally choose to wear heels or sneakers and still look impressive. 


Scarves can bring life to your look turning a basic look to elaborate. Either you’re wrapping one around your neck or in your hair, it’s a great way to make your style your own. You can create an owning look by finding a scarf that goes great with your personality, coloring and coordinates well with your look. 

A Belt

Its been established for many years now that belts are not just for keeping your pants from falling off your waist anymore. There are so many effortless styling experiences that can take place in a belt. Much of it still has to do with the way you want the fabric you’re wearing to fit, but a belt can easily transform a look making it totally you. The newest way of styling in a belt and making it you is by belting a blazer. It totally would have worked in my featured look in this blazer romper.   

Kimono, Duster, Blazer 

No doubt about it that a kimono, duster and blazer has the ability to help create functionality. If done right, they may just help you steal the show. These pieces will help you accomplish individuality. Invest in them and throw one of them on anytime you want to change up and own your look in its entirety. 


I recently discovered just how useful picking the right handbag is. This was right after seeing how much one of my handbags completely transformed my outfit. Maybe I knew it, but just didn’t want to recognize it. How well my handbag coordinated made me a true believer that your handbag can be a part of owning your look too. Going with what you’re feeling and matching your personality will set your look apart. 


How you own your look is simply by doing what you feel and embracing it with confidence. It’s never about what you wear, but how you’re wearing it. Are there any other ways that you own your look? Do you believe that these are ways you can own your look? I’d love to hear your feedback in the comment section below. Don’t just peek, but speak too. And don’t forget to share with others and subscribe. 




Pentené Milner is a mother, influencer, stylist and all around lifer. She started Style Me Fancy by Pentené (a style, fashion and lifestyle blog) initially to brand herself as a stylist, but quickly turned it into a place to inspire women to find a sense of empowerment in their personal style. She’s a native of San Diego, California, but made Los Angeles her home in 2002. She enjoys being mom to her tween son, city life, fun with family (and friends that are like family), seeing the world, dressing up, dining, wineries and self caring at a spa. To her, as a former singer, music brings everything to light and many times writes while listening to it.


  • Nikki Living Life

    Love the Harry WInston quote. You definitely made it worth their while. I am sure you turned quiet a few heads in this blazer dress. And your styling is impeccable. Love the straw bag and heels, I tend to play to my strengths. I think wearing clothes that play up my best style strengths tend to always look stylish, no matter what the current trend is. I tend to stay with classic pieces.


    • Pentené

      Thanks so much Nikki! And I absolutely love that you play to your strengths. It shows in your style and choices. That’s the beauty in styling. You get to play by your own rules. Appreciate you for stopping by love. Xo

  • Natoya

    I always try to dress in what I feel comfortable in. Nothing worst than feeling awkward in what your wearing. You look fantastic in this orange suit. I agree with the jewels jazzing up an outfit.

    • Pentené

      I know right?!? The worst you could ever do is wear something that you are not comfortable in. That’s probably style mistake #1. Thanks so much for the love on this post love. Appreciate it. Xo

  • Daria

    This post is everything, girl! I absolutely agree with every point you made. By the way, you look stunning!



  • Lovely

    Such a fabulous blazer dress, I am a huge fan and love wearing blazer dresses! You look amazing and this colour is so gorgeous darling!


    • Pentené

      Aww thanks beautiful. It’s actually a romper, but would also love it as a dress. Hope you had an amazing weekend Lovely. Xo

  • Yiota

    I love straw and basket bags and this one is so pretty, I need to pick a black one!! x


  • Biki

    Ooooh, we weren’t ready! One sexy look Mama!
    Love how the shade of brown compliments your skin tone.
    Good tips on how to own your look, all in all, your style should stay true to yourself or you look uncomfortable/the outfit will wear you.
    Have a lovely wken, Xo

    • Pentené

      You are so on point love. So true. And so many let their outfit wear them. Thanks so much for your lovely compliment and input. You’re awesome Biki. Xo

  • Radi

    You’re totally owning this look. I always look for pieces that fit my personality and style. Items that excite me and I can’t wait to wear.

    • Pentené

      Aww thank you so much Radi! That’s exactly the pieces I go for, those that excite me and can make my own. It’s great that you look for pieces that best suit YOU. Appreciate the comment love. Xo

  • Tina

    Such a stunning dress and what a cool backdrop as well – perfect match, Pentene!!! 🙂

    And what a great way to approach shopping, to think what the piece will tell about my personality. Definitely will think about that next time 🙂


    • Pentené

      Hi Tina! Thank you for the lovely compliments love. Much appreciated. I’m so pleased that you found one of my tips very helpful and plan to use it on your next shopping experience.

  • Nina

    Fab as always my love! I always try to be comfortable in what I’m wearing, being uncomfortable is the worst! Hope you’re doing well xo- Nina

    • Pentené

      Thanks so much Nina! Absolutely agree with you on making sure that whatever you wear you are comfortable. It’s hard to own your look while feeling uncomfortable. Appreciate you stopping by love. Xo

  • P

    You look so good in this stylization. A well-written post.

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