Reasons Your Style Need You to Love the Skin You’re In

Reasons Your Style Need You to Love the Skin You’re In

Hey there! In the past I’ve written a blog post about “Feeling Comfortable In Your Own Skin” which is a slight different approach than this post. On this post, I wanted to talk about reasons your style need you to love the skin you’re in. While there are MANY factors that affects not feeling good in your skin, one factor in particular is your personal style.

I’ve found that the older I get, the more I am loving the skin I’m in which helps with my style choices. I feel more free and open to try different styles and fashions. But it would be totally misleading if I didn’t say that this happens by working on how to love every bit of yourself no matter your flaws. It’s not an easy feat, but it is worth the work. When you’re too focused on what you don’t like about yourself, it makes it hard to dress yourself. 

The reality is this, no one is perfect and we’ll always be a work in progress. In order to truly love who you are internally so that it shows externally, you’ll need to learn how to work with what you got and build on it. So I believed that giving you the reasons that you should would be helpful on your journey of progression. And when those transformations occur in your life (because they always do), you’ll just have to relearn all the reasons your style need you to love the skin you’re in.    

Wardrobe Styled by Me

Dress by Forever 21 // Cardigan by Heavenly Couture (similar) // Earrings by Humans Before Handles // Sandals by Forever 21 //

Wooden Clutch Bag by Amazon Fashion // Straw Hat by Forever 21


**Affiliate links are in this post.

Reason 1 It’s hard to look good when you don’t feel good. A huge part of your style depends on your confidence. You learn how to WEAR the clothing, and not allow the clothing to wear you.You could be wearing a rag, and if you know how to work that rag with confidence, you’ll have everyone else wanting to learn how to wear a rag too. Embracing your positive traits is a great way to start building the confidence you need to look and feel like your best self. 

The true measure of confidence is a woman who understands her body and dresses as if she’s proud of it.                  

Reason 2 You’ll know what looks good on you once you learn to accept your body and weight. Don’t judge thyself. Loving on ourselves should happen at all stages of our lives. Identify your figure challenges and assets because they are all apart of what makes you, you. From there, focus on understanding what to wear according to your body shape and body type. Determining what silhouettes, fabrics and styles look best on your body will change your perception of yourself. You’ll realize that beauty comes in all sizes. 

Reason 3  Without becoming self-aware, it makes it difficult to know what your style personality is. Wearing clothes that suit your personality ensures that you are comfortable and confident in how you appear. It helps to know what looks best on you by easily identifying clothing styles you like and dislike. A big part of dressing for your truest self is by maximizing your look based on what you know works for you. 

Reason 4 It would be most helpful for you to focus on your internal issues so that you can make better external choices that fit best with you. Work out the issues that make you feel uncomfortable with yourself. Fixing those problematic thoughts and issues can change the way you see yourself. Becoming more comfortable with who you are can lead to new discoveries and growth. You will effortlessly dress the way you feel through exploration. 

Reason 5 Being at peace with yourself and developing self-acceptance will avoid discontentment from others and the media. With so many social trends telling you how you should look in order to be accepted as beautiful is nonsense. Coming to terms with who you are and being proud of that is a great way to stand out as an individual. The world needs each and everyone of us to showcase our individuality proudly and one of those ways are through our personal style. Your personal satisfaction shows up in your style once you are content with who you are. And you get to challenge media depictions of what beauty looks like.

Reason 6 We are what we wear so the more open you are to wearing colors the brighter your mood will be. Colors have the power to make our souls feel good and make us approachable by others. By wearing more colors and knowing which of them looks good on you, there is more opportunity for you to flourish. More happy outfit accidents coming right up. Your wardrobe and mood thanks you in advance.

Do you have challenges dressing yourself? Do you think it has to do with loving the skin you’re in? What about the reasons on this blog post, do you believe that they will help you with your appearance?

Thanks so much for stopping by and reading this blog post. If you find my posts helpful, please do me a favor and subscribe to my blog. Also, I would love it if you commented and shared this dialogue with others. After all, sharing is caring. 



Pentené Milner is a mother, influencer, stylist and all around lifer. She started Style Me Fancy by Pentené (a style, fashion and lifestyle blog) initially to brand herself as a stylist, but quickly turned it into a place to inspire women to find a sense of empowerment in their personal style. She’s a native of San Diego, California, but made Los Angeles her home in 2002. She enjoys being mom to her tween son, city life, fun with family (and friends that are like family), seeing the world, dressing up, dining, wineries and self caring at a spa. To her, as a former singer, music brings everything to light and many times writes while listening to it.


  • Carmelatte

    I love your summer hat! Great styling of your basket and super cool edit <3 so dreamy!


  • Natoya

    I would say 98% of the time I feel good in what I wear. The 2% is me trying something out, just because it looked nice on someone else. It just goes to show, it doesn’t mean because it looks great on someone else, it would look great on you. I guess that’s why they call it trying or trial and error. I never try to dress to impress anyone not even my partner. If I feel uncomfortable it would definitely show in my body language. I love colour and inject it in to my style here and there. But I feel I’m more of a neutral girl at heart. Which is why i’m so in love with that dress. Even though I don’t do dresses either lol. Great tips Pentene : ) xo


    • Pentené

      Haha! Love it babe. The you don’t do dresses part made me giggle. And you’re so spot on with your comment. I hear you about wearing something because it looks good on someone else. I know that’s something that happens all the time with women. Hence exactly why it’s important to know yourself and then those mistakes won’t happen as often. Your 2% of the time is not that bad at all. Thanks for the lovely compliments and your rocking input babe. Xo

  • Liza

    Love your gorgeous look, dear. That dress suits you perfectly


  • Nina

    Such a great post babe! It’s important to feel good in the clothes you’re wearing. I hate the feeling of being uncomfortable. We all have our days where we feel crappy and everything we put on doesn’t look right but then we all have days where we’re like yassss I look so good in this lol
    You look so beautiful!!
    xx- Nina

    • Pentené

      Hi Nina! That’s true. Most times when I’m feeling crappy my mood changes when I put on something that I know I look good in, lol. You learn as you get older how comfort ability really matters, right?!? Thanks for stopping by beautiful. Xo

  • Lovely

    I know what I like and most of the time will stick to that, now and again with try something out of my comfort zone. Totally agree that confidence shines through when you feel good in something.

    Love your dress and the way you styled the whole outfit darling! Have a fabulous week.


    • Pentené

      That’s me too! I will sometimes feel the urge to wear something completely out of what I ordinarily would. I’d like to call that out of the box styling. Thanks so much for stopping by and adding your input love. It’s always great getting to know others through comments. Xo

  • Nina

    You are absolutely right. As for the outfit, you look stunning in these dress and sandals. xx


  • Tina

    Such a great outfit and definitely nodding while reading – you are so right! I think one can tell if people feel comfortable in their outfit and that’s why its even more important to stay true to yourself and only wear what feels good 🙂



  • sonia // daring coco

    You’re right. It’s hard work but it is so worth it. I do think it gets easier as we get older, probably more to do with lessons and maturity I guess. Clothing can definitely help you feel good about yourself too. I think the most important thing is to understand what you actually feel comfortable wearing and just go for it!


    • Pentené

      Hi Sonia! Thanks so much for your input. You make some great points. Definitely comes with maturity and actually discovering what makes you feel comfortable. I truly believe that style is meant to make you feel good and not always in a superficial way. Love it babe! Xo

  • Berna

    Wow, I really love your outfit!!

    Berna from coffee & flowers

    • Pentené

      Thanks Berna! Appreciate the compliment on this look. It was so fun putting it together. And honestly, the cardigan was on accident, lol. Xo

  • Radi

    Love the dress so much. Shopping at f21 is my favorite.
    I definitely think feeling good in your own skin helps better express yourself through your clothing.


    • Pentené

      Thanks Radi! I stopped shopping at f21 for a while and then all of sudden started back up again. They started to give me reason to shop there again, lol. And yes! Feeling good in your skin seems to be the only way to best express yourself. Appreciate you reading and your input love. Xo

  • Eleonora

    This is exactly the kind of post I would like to see more online. So many bloggers post amazing pictures and fancy dresses without spending time talking about this issue. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, they are really helpful.

    • Pentené

      Wow, thanks so much Eleonora! Truly appreciate your openness. That’s exactly the kind of feeling I hope I give many others about my post. It’s my goal to inspire with intention. I appreciate you for your beautiful words love. Xo

  • Nikki Living Life

    I really enjoy your posts and reasoning Pentene. We need to embrace our flaws. It’s what makes us beautiful. Confidence comes with excepting my personal quirks and working with them. In this way, I can dress with confidence by knowing my look, and playing to my personal strengths. You always radiate confidence and positive vibes in your style. Looking super cute in this dress and hat.


    • Pentené

      Thanks so much beautiful Nikki! And I absolutely love what you said about embracing your flaws. You’re so right. Appreciate you sharing and stopping by love. Xo

  • Jessica

    Such a great read dear, and I couldn’t agree more! Anyway, loving your chic summer look!

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

  • Lovely

    Gorgeous styling loving the colour of the dress and of course that basket bag!


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <s> <strike> <strong>