Reclaim Your Style

Reclaim Your Style



It’s interesting how our experiences have such an impact on our lives (and the people that enter into our lives). They can change us for the better or the worse. That’s why its so important to be mindful of what and who you allow in it. Everything and everyone is not good for your soul. Although I could regret the people that I’ve allowed into my life and the experiences I had to endure because of it, I’m grateful that I’ve gone through it for my own personal growth. And because of it, I have been able to reclaim my style, freedom, strength, spirituality and purpose. Not only have I reclaimed them, but I have become even more aware of who I am which has helped me become a greater version of myself. 

What I wore

Crop top and pants set by Heavenly Couture (other finds here)

Choker Necklace Set by Forever 21

Faux Suede Mules by Forever 21 

Much of what I experienced was not about the other person (say it with me, their issues are NOT my issues), but about me and the things I needed to work on changing within myself. After finally deciding to leave my marriage and ending certain relationships that I’ve either outgrown or just simply tolerated for too long, I realize that I was being tested. I was challenged with the reality of what was really reality. And that was hard for me to come to terms with. I had to realize that God’s doing was not about the losses, but the gains he was making room for.

One of those gains was me seeing me again and seeing myself from a new perspective. I became so attached to always holding on to the old that it was breaking me and keeping me from experiencing better. When I started to let go, I started to transform. God what a feeling it has been to be free from all the old energy I had been accustomed to in toxic relationships. 

I want you to do something for me. Take back what was lost inside of you. And at the same time, discover the newly improved you. Use your experiences good and bad to create the style story you wish to tell. How you are feeling. Where you are going. What you are on the verge of next. Dress for your purpose. Leave the old energy and clothes that lacks your new confidence behind. 

Reclaiming your style does not have to mean reverting back to the old you. But celebrating the new and improved person that you fought so hard to become. Understanding that you are never done with learning, growing and evolving, so always embrace the beautiful being you are right now. Forget about who you were yesterday and acknowledge who you are today. Investing in yourself is the way to your destiny.

Stefanie Marie Photography

Let your style become apart of who you are inside of you and embark on a journey of reclaiming your style each experience at a time. 
She decided to reclaim her feelings of unlimited possibilities. 


Pentené Milner is a mother, influencer, stylist and all around lifer. She started Style Me Fancy by Pentené (a style, fashion and lifestyle blog) initially to brand herself as a stylist, but quickly turned it into a place to inspire women to find a sense of empowerment in their personal style. She’s a native of San Diego, California, but made Los Angeles her home in 2002. She enjoys being mom to her tween son, city life, fun with family (and friends that are like family), seeing the world, dressing up, dining, wineries and self caring at a spa. To her, as a former singer, music brings everything to light and many times writes while listening to it.


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