“And the beauty of a woman, with passing years only grows!”
― Audrey Hepburn
It’s my birthday (June 2) and personal new year! I couldn’t be more excited about turning thirty-eight and embracing a new age. You see the way I look at it – getting older with every age becomes the gift of more knowledge about life and myself (with every experience I endure). And what I know by experience is as the age grows fonder the more I know about myself and take care of myself, the better my life outcome. Oh and the better my personal style too. Your best styling happens when you know yourself. The better you understand you, the better others will see you. It’s a gift that keeps on giving.
Sure your body doesn’t feel the same (or may not look the same), but have you seen Angela Bassett (sigh). Bassett and so many others give a whole new perspective on the dynamics of aging (and in a healthy way by simply taking care of the mind and body). Aging doesn’t have to mean that you fall apart as the number climbs and the years pass you by (just like fine wine, we get better with time).
I decided to take my birthday photos in this beautiful floral off shoulder swimsuit by Unique Vintage (available in all sizes) (see the link under photo) because it represents how I feel about myself. At this point in my life I feel FREE (even to the DOM). The swimsuit complements my age, style and me just being me. I’m accepting me for who I am and learning to not give a damn what anyone else thinks about me. This is something I can get used to. Not only am I embracing my age, but all of me. I really feel good in my own skin.
SWIMSUIT BY UNIQUE VINTAGE
I got to this point after all the turmoil I’ve had to deal with in the last couple of years (its been rough). Without doing the work needed on myself I wouldn’t have made it through such a dark time (and the work will continue). It has helped me shed light on the part of me that was left hidden. Now living more fearlessly, I’m learning to live out loud and be the best of who I am at this very moment. I’ll never be done with growing and learning. My self-discovery is everlasting because with every new age will bring new life experiences which makes the journey all the more purposeful.
Embracing aging magnifies the best of you that has not remotely touched the surface of who you’re capable of being. Aging is a forever mood that is building you as the challenges and lessons are values of the maturity one gains in the process. I’ll choose my thirties over my twenties any day and I’m sure I’ll feel the same when I’m in my forties about my thirties. Your life depends on your growth and your style benefits too. Everything reverts back to style and how personal it is to your way of being, I’m just saying (lol). It’s that inside feeling on the outside reference that we are so often subjected to.
“Do not deprive me of my age. I have earned it.”
― May Sarton
And so to commemorate my process of healing and growth, I made a list of Thirty-Eight life goals during my personal new year to embark on while I’m Thirty-Eight. If it’s written then its easier to make them happen, right?! (right!) Here goals it:
1 Read inspirational books about self-love, self-empowerment, financial freedom, spirituality.
2 Do something you’ve never done before.
3 Take more baths.
4 Journal your feelings more.
5 Travel to two places out of the country that you’ve never been to.
6 Work as an Assistant Fashion Stylist to develop an ongoing relationship with a mentor.
7 Try out an exercise class and include more yoga.
8 Write a mantra for your personal new year and say it everyday.
9 Go back to school and take a class at a local community college.
10 Blog more about your motherhood journey with your son.
12 Go on a more frequent tech free diet.
13 Do frequent body cleanses.
14 Get on a better sleep schedule.
15 Visit with friends out of town more.
16 Spend more time with your nephews.
17 Plan fun activities and trips with mom.
18 Learn a new language.
19 Volunteer with a local non-profit.
20 Create a vision board on relationship goals.
21 Try SoulCycle
22 Try new cultural foods
23 Work on those passion projects that have been put on hold (or fine tune).
24 Challenge yourself to new words and their definitions.
25 Create video content
26 Explore home state (California) spontaneously.
27 Check up on family and friends more often.
28 When something negative happens, find ways to turn the negative to a positive.
29 Enjoy my alone time with some self-care.
30 Learn photography and video editing.
31 Attend church more often.
32 Try an outdoor activity that you fear most.
33 Do a walkathon.
34 Wear a style of clothing you’ve never worn before.
35 Do dinner, concert or a movie alone.
36 Build lasting healthy relationships with overachievers and selfless individuals.
37 Focus on creating myself.
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“It’s paradoxical that the idea of living a long life appeals to everyone, but the idea of getting old doesn’t appeal to anyone.”
― Andy Rooney
I’m open for suggestions just in case there’s something I didn’t think of, I’m leaving it to you to help me with number 38 in the comment section below. A way to include my beautiful readers in my personal new year journey. Thank you for the love you shower me with by reading and commenting on my posts. Believe it or not, I always look forward to reading what you have to say.
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Photography by Aiko Cunanan