THIRTY-EIGHT: Embracing a New Age

THIRTY-EIGHT: Embracing a New Age

“And the beauty of a woman, with passing years only grows!”
― Audrey Hepburn

It’s my birthday (June 2) and personal new year! I couldn’t be more excited about turning thirty-eight and embracing a new age. You see the way I look at it – getting older with every age becomes the gift of more knowledge about life and myself (with every experience I endure). And what I know by experience is as the age grows fonder the more I know about myself and take care of myself, the better my life outcome. Oh and the better my personal style too. Your best styling happens when you know yourself. The better you understand you, the better others will see you. It’s a gift that keeps on giving.

Sure your body doesn’t feel the same (or may not look the same), but have you seen Angela Bassett (sigh). Bassett and so many others give a whole new perspective on the dynamics of aging (and in a healthy way by simply taking care of the mind and body). Aging doesn’t have to mean that you fall apart as the number climbs and the years pass you by (just like fine wine, we get better with time). 

I decided to take my birthday photos in this beautiful floral off shoulder swimsuit by Unique Vintage (available in all sizes) (see the link under photo) because it represents how I feel about myself. At this point in my life I feel FREE (even to the DOM). The swimsuit complements my age, style and me just being me. I’m accepting me for who I am and learning to not give a damn what anyone else thinks about me. This is something I can get used to. Not only am I embracing my age, but all of me. I really feel good in my own skin. 


I got to this point after all the turmoil I’ve had to deal with in the last couple of years (its been rough). Without doing the work needed on myself I wouldn’t have made it through such a dark time (and the work will continue). It has helped me shed light on the part of me that was left hidden. Now living more fearlessly, I’m learning to live out loud and be the best of who I am at this very moment. I’ll never be done with growing and learning. My self-discovery is everlasting because with every new age will bring new life experiences which makes the journey all the more purposeful. 

Embracing aging magnifies the best of you that has not remotely touched the surface of who you’re capable of being. Aging is a forever mood that is building you as the challenges and lessons are values of the maturity one gains in the process. I’ll choose my thirties over my twenties any day and I’m sure I’ll feel the same when I’m in my forties about my thirties. Your life depends on your growth and your style benefits too. Everything reverts back to style and how personal it is to your way of being, I’m just saying (lol). It’s that inside feeling on the outside reference that we are so often subjected to. 

“Do not deprive me of my age. I have earned it.”
― May Sarton

And so to commemorate my process of healing and growth, I made a list of Thirty-Eight life goals during my personal new year to embark on while I’m Thirty-Eight. If it’s written then its easier to make them happen, right?! (right!) Here goals it:

1 Read inspirational books about self-love, self-empowerment, financial freedom, spirituality.

2 Do something you’ve never done before.

3 Take more baths.

4 Journal your feelings more.

5 Travel to two places out of the country that you’ve never been to.

6 Work as an Assistant Fashion Stylist to develop an ongoing relationship with a mentor.

7 Try out an exercise class and include more yoga.

8 Write a mantra for your personal new year and say it everyday.

9 Go back to school and take a class at a local community college.

10 Blog more about your motherhood journey with your son.

11 Meditate

12 Go on a more frequent tech free diet. 

13 Do frequent body cleanses. 

14 Get on a better sleep schedule.

15 Visit with friends out of town more.

16 Spend more time with your nephews.

17 Plan fun activities and trips with mom.

18 Learn a new language.

19 Volunteer with a local non-profit.

20 Create a vision board on relationship goals.

21 Try SoulCycle

22 Try new cultural foods

23 Work on those passion projects that have been put on hold (or fine tune). 

24 Challenge yourself to new words and their definitions.

25 Create video content

26 Explore home state (California) spontaneously.

27 Check up on family and friends more often.

28 When something negative happens, find ways to turn the negative to a positive.

29 Enjoy my alone time with some self-care.

30 Learn photography and video editing.

31 Attend church more often.

32 Try an outdoor activity that you fear most.

33 Do a walkathon.

34 Wear a style of clothing you’ve never worn before.

35 Do dinner, concert or a movie alone.

36 Build lasting healthy relationships with overachievers and selfless individuals.

37 Focus on creating myself.

38 ” “

“It’s paradoxical that the idea of living a long life appeals to everyone, but the idea of getting old doesn’t appeal to anyone.”
― Andy Rooney 

I’m open for suggestions just in case there’s something I didn’t think of, I’m leaving it to you to help me with number 38 in the comment section below. A way to include my beautiful readers in my personal new year journey. Thank you for the love you shower me with by reading and commenting on my posts. Believe it or not, I always look forward to reading what you have to say.

I’d love it if for a birthday gift to me from you, you share and/or subscribe to my blog for future posts on how we all can grow through style. Be good to yourself. 

Photography by Aiko Cunanan




Pentené Milner is a mother, influencer, stylist and all around lifer. She started Style Me Fancy by Pentené (a style, fashion and lifestyle blog) initially to brand herself as a stylist, but quickly turned it into a place to inspire women to find a sense of empowerment in their personal style. She’s a native of San Diego, California, but made Los Angeles her home in 2002. She enjoys being mom to her tween son, city life, fun with family (and friends that are like family), seeing the world, dressing up, dining, wineries and self caring at a spa. To her, as a former singer, music brings everything to light and many times writes while listening to it.


  • Biki

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY HON! I’m wishing you many more years of health and happiness. How great do you look in your images, how you feel on the inside is truly radiating on the outside.
    This post was very inspiring to read, I’m in my 30s or as I jokingly/seriously say: the wrong side of my 30s and maybe it’s because I’m not where I want to be (though I’m working on it) and society has a mostly damnig attitude to women as they grow older but I never reveal my age these days.
    My good friends know from way back when but that’s it.
    But back to you: so it’s lovely to see you totally owning who you are and what you’ve had to go through.
    Keep on rockn! ( :

    • Pentené

      Aww thanks so much babe! Yes, unfortunately society teaches us that everything is a rush or you should have this by this age or this age means your too old to do this or you’re just too old. It’s sad. But really being okay with who you are and where you are is key to getting to that next level. So own it girlfriend cause you look good and you’re doing good! Thanks again for the birthday love. Xoxo

  • Iyana

    Beautiful pictures and I love your list of things to do in your personal new year! I did one of those lists when I turned 30. I included something silly like grab someone’s butt at a party.. which I ended up doing. It was hilarious…he had no idea who it was. I hope you are having the best birthday ever! xoxoxo

    • Pentené

      Thank you sis for the birthday love! And I remember that when you turned 30, lol. Love that you included something silly on your list (its like a live a little moment). I wish I was there to witness because that’s too funny, lol. Xoxo

  • Aiko Cunanan

    Hope you had the most amazing birthday beautiful! I absolutely love your list of #38 life goals! So many of those I’ve added on my list! I love your positivity always- you’re such an inspiration!



    • Pentené

      I did love! Thank you so much for the birthday wishes and the chance to show off my birthday style with these gorgeous photos. Xoxo

  • Nina Nguyen

    Doll face!!!! I hope you had a fabulous birthday! I always tell you but I love how positive you are. Loving your #38 life goals! Cheers to you babe!
    xx- Nina


  • Patricia & Miguel

    Age is just a number, all that matters is how you feel inside and stay young in mind, body and soul! Love your vibe and Happy Birthday 😀
    Sending love and light,

    Patricia & Miguel

  • Yvonne

    Happy belated birthday, beauty! You look fabulous in your swimwear and what’s your age again? haha! Such beautiful photos too! Thanks for the inspiration!
    xo Yvonne

    • Pentené

      Haha, right?!? I’m major grown folk status (hehe). Thanks so much for the bday love beautiful! And glad you love the photos. Xoxo

  • Lovely

    Happy belated birthday darling, hope you had a wonderful one! The pictures are amazing and you look fabulous. Loving your list of things to do very inspiring.


    • Pentené

      Thank you doll! I had so much fun taking these photos too. Glad they show exactly how I feel. Appreciate the bday love. Xoxo

  • Gil Zetbase

    Fantastic photos!
    Have a nice week!
    Gil Zetbase

  • Heather Rowland

    Happy birthday! You look absolutely stunning in this bikini and thanks for sharing all of these gorgeous photos!

    Heather xoxo

  • Tina

    OMG Happy Birthday babe!!! Youre looking sooo fabulous – I think 38 is the new 28?!!! 🙂
    You look so great in that swimsuit – what a fantastic way to celebrate and you sound so satisfied with life right now – I think this is the number 38 – just enjoy and be yourself cause youre fabulous!!! ♥

    Have a lovely weekend dear and enjoy your birthday 🙂



    • Pentené

      Thank you lovely friend for your beautiful comment and birthday love! I think 38 is the number too. I’m so ready to enjoy these last years of my thirties. Have a fantastic week beautiful. Xoxo

  • Elegant Duchess

    Happy birthday babe, you look fantastic! What an amazing swimsuit, it really suits you. Age is just a number and let’s face the truth, none of us getting younger but we are certainly getting wiser. 💞😘💖


    • Pentené

      Thanks so much babe for the birthday love and lovely compliment on my swimsuit style! I am obsessed with this suit. You are so correct about age being a number, but many of us getting wiser. Loving that I’m getting older and wiser. Xoxo

  • Zorica

    Such an inspirational post.
    The swimsuit looks amazing on you.

  • Kate

    Happy birthday! You look absolutely beautiful (I’ll be lucky if I look like that at 38)! 😉 I hope you had a fantastic day, and have a wonderful new year!
    -Kate // http://www.classyandkate.com/how-i-keep-my-skin-healthy-in-the-summer/

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