Yearly Themes for Motivation: What Will Your Theme Be?

Yearly Themes for Motivation: What Will Your Theme Be?

Wow, it’s the last chapter of the year loves. I can’t believe that I’m saying this – but Happy December! That’s just how fast the year flew by. There were even Christmas decor already set up (as you can see) before the Thanksgiving holiday when I took these photos. Now that December is here, I’m beginning to reflect on the challenges I faced in the last two years of my life. Luckily, those challenges made me a better person because where I was is not where and who I am today. Ever since twenty seventeen, I begin creating yearly themes for motivational purposes and to keep me inspired along the way. I’ll share my themes of the year with you and why. 

I don’t care what I allowed in the past, try me today. 


In this post, I styled in the gorgeous yellow gold connection earrings and Obelisk Pendant by AUrate Jewelry. They are a two-woman based brand that seek out the purest 14- and 18-karat gold, procure pearls from Japan and the South Sea, and only use S1-clarity diamonds. Not only that, but AUrate Jewelry gives back by giving out thousands of books to students across the city of New York. I say, put your dollars where you feel good about where it’s going. Perfect gift for that special someone this holiday season.

The Year of My “New Independence” (Twenty Seventeen)

This was probably one of the most challenging years in life. I filed for divorce from my spouse (and son’s father) and I had to reclaim my independence again. And this time, with my then six year old child (who would no longer know what it is like to live in a biological two parent household). Not only was I reclaiming my new independence, but I had discovered that I lost myself and was battling with the person I had become. I didn’t recognize her. Not only did I need to recover her, but I needed her to become a better version of who she once was. This was the only way I would survive being on my own again, and as an unplanned single mother. 

There were so many obstacle courses (what it felt like) testing my strength and faith. The person that once proclaimed their love for me never loved me at all and did everything in their power to hurt me. And used others to help with their plan. When one plan failed, then they would try a new one. It was a whirlwind of evil and negativity. I had never been in and out of a courthouse so much in my life. Or heard my name being so dragged through the mud like I was nothing. It was a painful process to live through. But little did I know, I was becoming a woman through the experience. 

By the end of the year, I had gained new found wisdom, reclaimed my sense of self, connected with my spirituality and landed on my two feet. There were really endless discoveries that guided me. These positive changes didn’t come without attending therapy, having positively transforming conversations with wise people and constantly keeping the words of God in my life. 

Also Wearing

Velvet Bodysuit by Forever 21

Striped Velvet Pants by Forever 21 (similar)

Faux Fur Jacket by GS Love

Platform Heels by H by Halston

The Year of “Personal Growth” (Twenty Eighteen) 

There were wounds opened up that I never ever thought were there. What I discovered was that I had been so scarred by childhood traumas and because of this, I had allowed so many to take advantage of my kindness. I was being so negatively affected by trying to always see the good in people. I was learning not only about recognizing relationships with value, but valuing the relationship I had with and within myself. My therapist was heaven sent and kept it straight up with me every time we met about what I needed to work on in order to be a survivor and not a victim. I challenged myself with what I learned and would soon challenge others in my life.

Believe it or not, my growth caused quite a few to leave and for me to be fine with letting go has been big for me. As my attitude, perspective and surroundings begin to change, that’s when I knew that I was blossoming. Even how I would respond to situations were more productive than before. I trusted God more and that’s when my life changed for the better. 

The Year of “Execution” (Twenty Nineteen)

I believe that with everything I endured, this will be the year that will show that it wasn’t all in vain. I will have more to show for the work I’ve been putting in to change my life. I’ll always be a work in progress because you never stop learning unless you choose to. But with what I do know now, the goal is to keep getting and doing better. I chose execution as twenty nineteen’s theme because everything that becomes of my life will be because of what’s in order. As the bible says, you reap what you sow and so I’ve been carefully sowing to reap the blessings that will take effect.

I’m speaking to the finalization of my divorce, my son’s continuous progress and living out my calling by consistently focusing on my personal growth. 

What do you think about my yearly themes? Is it something that you do? Would you consider creating your own theme of the year? What will your theme of twenty nineteen be? Think about how your yearly theme can be used as a tool to work towards goals you want to accomplish for the year. 

As always, I appreciate your comments, love and support. If there’s any subject matters you would like for me to talk about in twenty nineteen, I would love your feedback. Please subscribe if you haven’t.

Be good to yourself. 



Pentené Milner is a mother, influencer, stylist and all around lifer. She started Style Me Fancy by Pentené (a style, fashion and lifestyle blog) initially to brand herself as a stylist, but quickly turned it into a place to inspire women to find a sense of empowerment in their personal style. She’s a native of San Diego, California, but made Los Angeles her home in 2002. She enjoys being mom to her tween son, city life, fun with family (and friends that are like family), seeing the world, dressing up, dining, wineries and self caring at a spa. To her, as a former singer, music brings everything to light and many times writes while listening to it.


  • Aimee

    I absolutely love this blog post and for your courage to tell your story. It’s amazing how things happen when God has a plan for you ♥️ & I’m right with you I feel like 2019 is the year of “what you reap you sow” and it’s going to manifest by showing what you have been working for!!!

    • Pentené

      Aww thanks so much Aimee for your kind words on this blog post. And ain’t what you said the absolute truth! You betta preach love. I love when blog posts creates open conversations because we can all relate to it. Appreciate you for reading. Xo

  • Lovely Amusan

    Always a pleasure to read your posts Pentene, you look beautiful and those trousers are spectacular!!!!


    • Pentené

      I appreciate the beautiful compliments Lovely! Fell in love with these trousers and it honestly took me time to find a top to go with them because nothing was good enough for them, lol. Not until I found this one. Thanks for stopping by and supporting my blog babe. Xx

  • Sue

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  • Dominique

    Oooh this post has definitely got me thinking about next year’s theme will be! Can’t believe we’ve almost made it to the end of 2018 xx

  • Roseline

    I love your fashion sense and style.
    I think that you are very great and everything looks good on you.

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    I’ll follow you back. Thank you! ^^

  • Deepti

    This post is such a source of inspiration and strength! It takes a lot of identify a problem and show courage to fight it and eventually overcome it! All the power to you!
    I love the idea of yearly themes, might have even inspired me to do the same!

    Deepti xx |

    • Pentené

      Wow that makes me feel empowered and good, thank you Deepti! I love that my post makes others feel the way I felt when writing it. It’s been a tough ride, but it does take a lot of inner strength to get through it. So happy to know that my post just may have inspired you to create a theme of your own. I say do it love! It’s really helped me. Xo

  • The Exclusive Beauty Diary

    Great post! I really enjoy reading your post! Thank you for idea for creating theme for the next year! I would do that before New Year!

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    • Pentené

      Thank you for reading it love! And I’m so happy to know that this post has inspired you to create your own. Would love to know what it will be. Thanks again for the love. Xo

  • Des | itsbetterinheels

    Hello Pentene, this post was inspiring and so raw. I commend you for being so open and willing to share your life struggles with the internet world. Self love is so important and I think we just need to put ourselves first every now and then, even if it’s just taking 10 minutes out of your day for yourself. Everything will work out for the best, you are a star doll! Twenty nineteen will be a great year for you 🙂

    xx, Des |

    • Pentené

      I really appreciate that Des, thank you so much love! Being transparent can be healthy, freeing and bring peace. On top of all that, I believe that you can inspire and aspire others through your journey which helps everyone, including the person telling the story. My blog has been an outlet for me and I feel tremendously blessed that my story has been accepted by so many like you. Xo

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  • Margot

    I hope this new year will give you everything you wish.
    Theses photos are absolutely beautiful.
    I love your outfit so much !

  • Julie

    Know that you are an inspiration for many. Your resilience is apparent! Keep shining, Sis!

  • Biki

    Thanks for sharing your journey with us focusing from 2017 onwards, I know you’ve inspired a lot of people who are going either through something similar (e.g. a divorce) or going through hardship in general. I’m totally here for it with regards to your 2019 execution plans.
    As for me, 2018 was my best year in yeeeearssss because I got a taste of stability job-wise. In summary in the last 20 years, I have gone from law to fashion to online marketing and in the latter I had a few key traumatic failures and this year, I finally got a job where I’ve nailed it thus far…
    But 2018 has brought a lot of sadness due to parents health, my health, losing good friends, still not having a boyfriend like ever…
    It was my bday yesterday and I had an amazing bday in Vienna but my actual bday was complicated, as in how I was feeling…so I’ve a lot of work to do in thinking of my goals for next year. I haven’t done it yet…so far I’m thinking more travelling for sure, go to the gym more but I need to think about how to strengthen my mind and resilience…and to be better with fitness
    Ok essay over, you know how I do ( ;

    • Pentené

      Happy belated birthday Biki! Thank you for reading this post and allowing me to share my journey with you. It helps when I talk about it and I write it in hopes that it does inspire others. There’s always going to be things that happen in our lives that we view as bad, but they happen because it causes us to grow. The flower doesn’t bloom without being planted in a field of dirt. I hope your parents and your health are better. And congrats on your new job! The loss of friends, well, we all go through that to make room for new positive and healthier relationships.

      Wishing you a blessed personal new year in addition to a great 2019 love. So much change ahead for you. Just keep believing and having faith that great things are ahead for you. Xo

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  • Tina

    What a fabulous review, Pentene! So much happened for you in the past two years and I think your looking back is something that we should definitely do more often, as it shows how much happened and how much we grew over the past. Cant wait to see your year of execution 🙂
    And that outfit is just perfect with all the Christmas decoration – loving it! ♥


    • Pentené

      Thank you so much beautiful. I am just so darn grateful for experiencing the pain and getting through it. I’m still here and ready. Appreciate the love and support as always Tina. Xo

  • Radi

    Way to go through everything you did and come out even more strong. I like the idea of creating a theme!
    Love your fabulous pants and coat!

  • Mica

    The colours and textures in your outfit look so festive, especially with the gold heels!

    I’m sorry you’ve had a tough few years, I hope that 2019 brings everything you want! 🙂

    Hope that you are having a nice week 🙂 I wrapped all the Christmas pressies yesterday, so excited for Christmas 🙂

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    • Pentené

      Aww thanks love! They were tough for a reason and now I’m looking forward to more of the reasons why in the new year. Happy that you enjoyed this post. Have wonderful Christmas and new year! I’m almost done with everyone. Xo

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