Wow, it’s the last chapter of the year loves. I can’t believe that I’m saying this – but Happy December! That’s just how fast the year flew by. There were even Christmas decor already set up (as you can see) before the Thanksgiving holiday when I took these photos. Now that December is here, I’m beginning to reflect on the challenges I faced in the last two years of my life. Luckily, those challenges made me a better person because where I was is not where and who I am today. Ever since twenty seventeen, I begin creating yearly themes for motivational purposes and to keep me inspired along the way. I’ll share my themes of the year with you and why.
I don’t care what I allowed in the past, try me today.
In this post, I styled in the gorgeous yellow gold connection earrings and Obelisk Pendant by AUrate Jewelry. They are a two-woman based brand that seek out the purest 14- and 18-karat gold, procure pearls from Japan and the South Sea, and only use S1-clarity diamonds. Not only that, but AUrate Jewelry gives back by giving out thousands of books to students across the city of New York. I say, put your dollars where you feel good about where it’s going. Perfect gift for that special someone this holiday season.
The Year of My “New Independence” (Twenty Seventeen)
This was probably one of the most challenging years in life. I filed for divorce from my spouse (and son’s father) and I had to reclaim my independence again. And this time, with my then six year old child (who would no longer know what it is like to live in a biological two parent household). Not only was I reclaiming my new independence, but I had discovered that I lost myself and was battling with the person I had become. I didn’t recognize her. Not only did I need to recover her, but I needed her to become a better version of who she once was. This was the only way I would survive being on my own again, and as an unplanned single mother.
There were so many obstacle courses (what it felt like) testing my strength and faith. The person that once proclaimed their love for me never loved me at all and did everything in their power to hurt me. And used others to help with their plan. When one plan failed, then they would try a new one. It was a whirlwind of evil and negativity. I had never been in and out of a courthouse so much in my life. Or heard my name being so dragged through the mud like I was nothing. It was a painful process to live through. But little did I know, I was becoming a woman through the experience.
By the end of the year, I had gained new found wisdom, reclaimed my sense of self, connected with my spirituality and landed on my two feet. There were really endless discoveries that guided me. These positive changes didn’t come without attending therapy, having positively transforming conversations with wise people and constantly keeping the words of God in my life.
Velvet Bodysuit by Forever 21
Faux Fur Jacket by GS Love
Platform Heels by H by Halston
The Year of “Personal Growth” (Twenty Eighteen)
There were wounds opened up that I never ever thought were there. What I discovered was that I had been so scarred by childhood traumas and because of this, I had allowed so many to take advantage of my kindness. I was being so negatively affected by trying to always see the good in people. I was learning not only about recognizing relationships with value, but valuing the relationship I had with and within myself. My therapist was heaven sent and kept it straight up with me every time we met about what I needed to work on in order to be a survivor and not a victim. I challenged myself with what I learned and would soon challenge others in my life.
Believe it or not, my growth caused quite a few to leave and for me to be fine with letting go has been big for me. As my attitude, perspective and surroundings begin to change, that’s when I knew that I was blossoming. Even how I would respond to situations were more productive than before. I trusted God more and that’s when my life changed for the better.
The Year of “Execution” (Twenty Nineteen)
I believe that with everything I endured, this will be the year that will show that it wasn’t all in vain. I will have more to show for the work I’ve been putting in to change my life. I’ll always be a work in progress because you never stop learning unless you choose to. But with what I do know now, the goal is to keep getting and doing better. I chose execution as twenty nineteen’s theme because everything that becomes of my life will be because of what’s in order. As the bible says, you reap what you sow and so I’ve been carefully sowing to reap the blessings that will take effect.
I’m speaking to the finalization of my divorce, my son’s continuous progress and living out my calling by consistently focusing on my personal growth.
What do you think about my yearly themes? Is it something that you do? Would you consider creating your own theme of the year? What will your theme of twenty nineteen be? Think about how your yearly theme can be used as a tool to work towards goals you want to accomplish for the year.
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Be good to yourself.